In depth psychology dating
These two kinds of love may occur together, but they do not always go hand in hand in a relationship: Some researchers study the influence of childhood attachment styles on adult relationships.
Many researchers believe that as adults, people relate to their partners in the same way that they related to their caretakers in infancy.
In Dion et al.’s (1972) study, those who were rated to be the most physically attractive were not rated highly on the statement “Would be a good parent” which could be seen to contradict theories about inter and intra-sexual selection.
This difference (anisogamy) means that men and women use different strategies when choosing their partners.
This is supported by the self-disclosure research described elsewhere in this topic.
The third filter was complementarity which goes a step further than similarity.
This was supported by research conducted by Waynforth and Dunbar (1995) who found that women tended to list physical characteristics when seeking a partner in personal ads and men promoted their wealth or resources.
Clark and Hatfield (1989) conducted a now infamous study where male and female psychology students were asked to approach fellow students of Florida State University (of the opposite sex) and ask them for one of three things; to go on a date, to go back to their apartment, or to go to bed with them.