90 day dating detox
Fortunately, there is help at hand in the form of a new programme she has dubbed the Dating Detox.The treatment is a combination of cognitive behavioural therapy techniques, psychoanalysis and new dating etiquette."Through my clinical work I could see the type of issues holding people back from having a relationship," she says. I noticed certain patterns and that's how the five main areas came about." Dr Lukats agrees that while dating toxins such as shyness and low selfesteem have always held people back, what makes The Dating Detox unique is the use of techniques such as cognitive behavioural therapy (where you learn exercises and techniques to help change negative patterns of thinking and behaviour) specifically for dating problems."CBT is normally used to treat classic mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive disorder or eating disorders."Depending on what the issues are, I give people cognitive (mind) and behavioural techniques and exercises.
"Fussiness can be quite tricky as people who are fussy don't always recognise that they are," says Dr Lukats.
But this is for people who don't have any mental health issues.
"This treatment is for anyone who wants to try new techniques to help them improve their chances of finding a happy relationship." With speed-dating, chat rooms and internet dating, actually getting a date is not really the problem.
"I find that people tend to remember how they feel at the end of the exercise rather than the beginning, especially as it is usually a very positive experience.
"Obviously, each individual's treatment is different as it is personalised according to their problem areas." In terms of the most prevalent 'toxins' Dr Lukats says that low self-esteem, desperation and lack of opportunity are common in both men and women. How do they see themselves in five years' time, and so on." Interestingly, it seems that shyness is more of a problem for men.